10 IDEAS TO KEEP ALIVE THE UNION COUPLE
1 º) exchange roles. The allocation of stereotypes produces routine. Gives much life to the couple to change the habit.
2 º) discusses the problems ahead. We talk about the past to reconsider the other, but humans tend to defend ourselves and we do not usually apologize. It is best to seek future agreements not to assume that the other is going to repeat his usual behavior.
3 º) Back to seduce your partner. Eroticism always starting from scratch. We assume that a relationship can skip the previous steps, but the biochemistry of sex does not accept ellipses.
4 º) Question as if you knew nothing about another. Listen to him well in place of interpretation. That helps you feel legitimized in their needs and interests.
5 º) Use I messages. Change the words "you" ("not you ignore me," you always want to be right ") by the expressions" I "(I feel sad).
6 º) Put on challenges as a couple. Explore together some new field: sports, sex toys, travel ... Something different and nice.
7 º) specific about the other. Over time, members of a pair tend to generalize about the other. Change that habit and be more specific, because conflicts are never global and interests change. Do not use "someone" when in reality is "you."
8 º) Talk about erotic fantasies. Couples can not do it because they think the other will think that you're willing to carry them out. Not so: sexual fantasies are exciting by the fact imagine. Sharing is a way to imagine them together. A bit of bondage to heat the room?
9 º) No dogmatism. Chat with flexibility on needs, interests and sentiments, and not how things have to be.
10 º) Expresses anger. It is good for the relationship to channel the aggression avoid extremes-suppression or exploitation. Gives another opportunity to let off steam before you feel hurt.
The reasons are bound to follow the care (30%), good communication (21%), shared things (18%) and satisfactory sex (15%)
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